Aww, that’s awesome!Happy birthday to your Roseling! XD
It’s been 7 years since the last Harry Potter book came out.
I know, because I stood in line at midnight for the book.
And then, later that day, my son was born.
So, happy birthday to he-who-was-nearly-named-Seamus.
I apologize for not seeing your response sooner as I was away for a while and could not see it on my activity feed.Anyway, yes I probably did miss something since I have terrible reading comprehension. On the other hand, I consider Rose a friend (as far as mutual followerswho talk to each other on tumblr can go) and did feel the need to back them up. Sure, I don’t agree with everything they say but can sort of understand their bitterness when it comes to autism and parenting because their faced with someone calling them inferior because they are an autistic parent all the damn time. They probably assumed you weren’t autistic because they’ve heard similar responses from allistic parents who accuse them of being a bad parent.Also thank you for responding to me in a polite manner. I’m glad to hear that you agree that my points are valid. I also hope you don’t think I’m trying to shove ‘autistic pride’ down anyones throat since there are certainly things I would like to change about myself… though yes, I am also damn proud of who I am, autism and all.I just want to clear something up about the term “allistic”, however. In some cases non-neurotypical/neurodivergent can refer to people that are not autistic. As in, a person who has bipolar disorder or scizophrenia can be neurodivergent. A person with those conditions doesn’t always have autism. So, in that case someone who is neurodivergent can also be allistic. Yes, we might have a lot in common with other non-nts but since they’re allistic they always don’t share the same experiences and vice versa… I hope that makes sense!
like i think you are grossly underestimating how much allistic parents truly hate their autistic children
i’m sorry but you’re just wrong parents that hate those times say “i’m sad we have trouble communicating” and not “i hate autism”
if a parent loved their child then they would love their child’s autism because a person cannot be separated from their autism and while autism may sometimes make things harder for people, it is also one of the things that makes those people who they are(snip)
You do realize that the majority of people who you are talking to, who agree with TransDaphne (including Rose) ARE actually clinically diagnosed? That some might actually share your life experiences?
And, despite their struggles in life, learned to accept their condition as it is without hating themselves over it?
I’m sure that many are sorry for assuming you’re neurotypical aka allistic (a term that has been used within the autism community for over 10 years). But that’s because most of the opinions you stated in your first response are shared by many neurotypical people who are quite toxic to us since they do not understand autism at all.
I only ask you to try and listen to our point of view. Your experience with autism and your opinions on how autistics should view our disorder is not how all of us feel.
Your responses show some rather misunderstood projecting, so I’m thinking you may have simply skimmed then rather hastily jumped to judgment and picked a side to defend. However, you are rather polite and honest, and you have multiple valid points, so I don’t think you mean ill will by it.
Thank you for the thought, but in no way are any of those people even the tiniest bit apologetic or regretful for their judgments. Those that even acknowledged that I was autistic to begin with simply went straight for the next excuse to silence and discredit me.
Seeing the misinformation and toxic behavior they’re encouraging, I would rather think they were self-diagnosers, since if they were clinically diagnosed and fully aware of what autism involves, this would imply that such actions were deliberate and calculated rather than done out of ignorance.
I am open to all points of views and I openly acknowledge that all autistics have different experiences and issues… however people like TransDaphne and Rose are deliberately spreading misinformation and encouraging very toxic behaviors, such as claiming autistic issues are a conspiracy by non-autistic people, depicting autism as a personality quirk, or demonizing non-autistic parents simply for not being autistic.
I’d rather admit that there are negative aspects of Autism than completely denying they exist and lie about how Autism is flawless and perfect and just misunderstood. I don’t exactly enjoy putting a negative light on Autism, but I need to make it clear that Autism DOES have issues that need to be addressed in order to get autistics the assistance and help they need. I was rather aggressive on this part- which is likely why you took issue with me- because people kept trying to erase the issues and problems Autism involves and mislead people to believe that there is nothing wrong and that autistics don’t need help.
I encourage accepting your condition! I encourage loving yourself despite of- or even for it! The deaf community has done this, and it has done us a great good! However, this is not what is happening here. People are spreading harmful misinformation and blatantly lying about what autism involves, claiming there are no issues or drawbacks with autism or falsely blaming them on ableism, using it as an excuse to exercise and encourage toxic and hostile behavior (blatantly displayed in TransDaphne’s unashamed demonizing of all non-autistic parents of autistic children above), and believe me, this will hurt autistic representation and future autistics very badly in the long run. This is why I have an issue with glorifiers and self-diagnosers.
All of the points you made in the other post about Autism? Absolutely correct! (Although I’d say we’re as free to hate it as much we are free to love it. I have personal reasons for this.) However, multiple people- including the two you tried to defend- have claimed the contrary to most of those points.
Also, I have barely heard of “allistic” at all until recently, and someone did tell me that it was around for a while, but also told me that it isn’t as commonly used and that “neurotypical” is the more appropriate and accepted term. I have heard of neurotypical rather often though, so we may simply have been in different circles. That said, people are already using ‘allistic’ as an insult and demonization- including the people you are trying to defend- like transtrenders are doing with ‘cis’ and as such I refuse to use the term even if it is valid, for it has been abused.
However, you’re welcome to discuss your views as well- actually, PLEASE do so- and I would like to listen to them! You sound like you know what you’re talking about for a change, and it would greatly help this blog to have additional views and unbiased information on autism.
a kid from my school sent me a pic an elaborate painting of atticus finch shirtless smoking a blunt while a colt 45 is being poured on him along with a text that read “hot dad 2: dad harder” and this is the closest thing to a sext I have ever received
You neglected to mention the Tupac and Biggie cherubs how dare you.
look there’s a lot going on here it makes perfect sense that they’d forget some details
Um, what are you referring to?
I’m not making shit up at all! Want me to pull up sources because I can easily do that if you would like.
Ahhh look at all those POCs (and a gender-flipped Kaa). I know it’s mostly animated but yay representation!
Disney’s The Jungle Book cast so far: Neel Sethi as Mowgli, Ben Kingsley as the voice of Bagheera, Lupita Nyong’o as the voice of Rakcha, Scarlett Johansson as the voice of Kaa and Idris Elba as the voice of Shere Khan (x x x x)
And not only is the cast amazing, but the film is going to be a mixture of live-action and animation (a-la Mary Poppins). Neel Seth (Mowgli),is going to be the only live-action actor and everyone else’s characters will be animated AND I COULD NOT BE MORE EXCITED.
Add my 12 year old papers to the pile too. Should I carry them with me all the time just in case anyone doesn’t believe me? And hey, news flash: I in no way “glorify” my autism. Yesterday and today I had panic attacks because I couldn’t for the life of me something that I was working on. I have my moments of extreme anxiety and sensory overload. If I could lessen those I’d be happy. But lessening still does not mean a cure- it means taking away certain things that cause me a lot of stress. I also don’t go around flaunting the disability either. It’s really hard but I try my best to “fake” neurotypical in order to prevent bullying and/or treatment like I’m a child in real life. I understand that others are unable to do that, and I think that is okay. They too should be able to have a better quality of life through whatever accommodations that they can receive. Despite my issues I am damn proud of who I am and what I’ve accomplished, no matter how small. What is the matter with someone who is actually autistic feeling that way about ourselves? Should we really wallow in self-pity all the time and not encourage other autistic people to better themselves? Should we really tell others that “No, you can’t be happy and autistic. That’s contradictory. You must cure yourself to be happy!” even though autism might be so deeply embedded our genes and neurons at birth that actually taking away our autism is probably impossible? We are absolutely not trying to take away help from others who need more than we do. As far as I can tell, none of us have said that at all. You’re just assuming what we believe!I’m sorry, but self-diagnosed mental conditions is not disability, and until proven otherwise, I’m pretty sure most of those anti-allistic autism glorifiers are self-diagnosed. Especially so with certain individuals who are spreading misinformation that autism is akin to a quirky personality trait rather than an actual disability. That is the most misinformed you can be about Autism.
yeah because being against allistic people must be something…an allistic person must feel. Because of mistreatment from allistic people…totally makes sense. hey should i show you the paperwork from 1996/1995 or am I “self diagnosed” too because I don’t believe in your f-ed up ideologies? Are the doctors who diagnosed me 19-20 years ago “fake”?
The one with the picture of the paramedic really makes my heart ache. Poor guy. ;_;
My friend took the single greatest picture with Ben possible.
It’s a good one.
I will never get over how huge his hands are.
"My name is Michael Hunter. I was diagnosed with leukemia in June 2013 & was told on June 11, 2014 that I only have a few months left to live if I can’t find a donor. Please help me with my biological family or a donor match! I was born in Columbus, OH 3/1/1985 at Doctor’s North Hospital and given the name Christopher Brown. Please share"
Michael is a friend, I’m asking that you all take the time to share this. He desperately needs a bone marrow donor and there is very limited number of African American donors. Without a donor Michael is going to die.
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He does not specifically need an African American Donor but because of all of the things that factor into finding a match (blood type, dna tissue etc.) , someone of similar descent is more likely to be a closer match.
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BOOST. Its so hard for Black people to find donors.
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